A monk at the Beijing Long Quan (Dragon Spring) Temple says that the fundamental way to nurture a Buddhist heart (sentiment) is to be careful of one’s every word and every deed. They include not being critical of others, not being hostile to others, and deciding not to follow one’s old ways that harm oneself spiritually, mentally and physically.
I, [masterchensays], say: There are two attitudes of being critical of others. One is being critical of others to show one’s own false sense of superiority, the “I am better than you!” mentality. The other attitude of being critical of others is to not express criticism as criticism but to express criticism as advice and suggestion and gentle but persistent (not insistent) persuasion.
In my classes, I always taught my students to persist but not to insist. To persist will bring progress and advancement. To insist will bring confrontation. Many have died after insisting on paying for a bill for the guest even after the guest had refused to accept the offer.
There is absolutely no need to be hostile to others, even if you are the president!
A decision or New Year’s resolution not to follow one’s old ways that harm oneself spiritually, mentally and physically must be executed by action. Otherwise, the resolution is meaningless.
Sadly, it takes a revolution or two and even bloodshed to change the world. In India, it took the death of the victim of gang rape in a private bus and mass demonstrations to get the bureaucrats to even consider making a decision on protecting women.